5 Ways To A Better Mind, Better You
As I look back on this year, I can’t help but be proud of what I’ve accomplished. I picked up and ran with photography, shooting concerts for an online publication and learning more about how I see this world. I started writing song reviews and doing interviews for artists on another site. I even got my own website up and running for the world to see! It’s been a great year of getting my feet wet creatively and to let the small number of people who visit this site see what I do.
But after some contemplation and rough nights, I realize I’m lacking somewhere; I’ve been so busy chasing after dreams that I haven’t taken the time to closely look at the bumps, cuts, and bruises I’ve taken on along this path of life filled with its fair share of prickly patches.
With the new year coming up, I figured now is the time to think about what I can do about that. I’ve created a list of 5 specific ways you can work towards greater peace of mind and be closer to the best version of yourself you can possibly.
So without further ado, here are my 5 ways to work towards a healthy mind in the year of 2019.
1. Journal Once A Day
After a tedious day filled with stress, it can be hard to know what’s on your mind. While you may be tempted to sit and watch old episodes of Arrested Development, Workaholics, or silly cat videos ad naseum, consider writing in a journal. Journaling can be a good way to reduce stress, get some quiet time, and organize your day and sort out whatever thoughts may be in that tangled up yarn ball of a mess we call the human brain.
Just write about whatever comes to mind. It doesn’t even have to all make complete sense. This activity is for you and you alone so get it all out there and drag out whatever thoughts you may have onto the page. And if it seems hard to focus, putting on some ambient music may be a good way to provide a lush soundscape that can help ease you into your thoughts.
These thoughts don’t even have to be in a physical journal that you write in. Typing up feelings in a word processor on your computer is a great alternative, and may even be better for some who feel like they often can’t keep up with their thoughts while writing. Various programs are out there specifically for journaling, but again it doesn’t really matter as long as you get your thoughts out there. The sooner you sort out what’s in your head and figure out what’s on your mind, the sooner you can identify and solve problems in your life that you might not have even known were an issue.
2. Avoid Obsessing Over Social Media
Every day you’re bombarded by all sorts of apps vying for your attention: Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, the list goes on and on. Even the perception that we need to devote so much time to it can be draining.
On top of this is the nasty habit of comparing ourselves to others, making us feel insecure and inadequate.
But as Steven Furtick – a pastor, songwriter, and New York Times best-selling author – points out, “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
Just because you might not have as nice of a car or as high-paying of a job doesn’t mean you’re any worse than someone you might compare yourself to. You can’t possibly know their entire story; maybe they’ve had to make sacrifices to get whatever it is, be it long hours at work or long sleepless nights. Or maybe they even got the money through the death of a loved one who they would take any day over the money.
To put it bluntly, it’s also possible that they had a better start to life than you did with a family that has more wealth, higher education, or any of the above. It’s not fair and it’s just the way this world works, but the sooner you can grapple with this reality, the better off you’ll be when you can feel the temptation to compare yourself to others.
Your path will be different than everyone else’s, so feel free to take a look at whatever social media you enjoy, but considering limiting yourself on it, be it by your own will or with an app that limits your usage.
Whatever social media you do use – or don’t – just remember this: as long as you’re happy with where you’re at or are making active changes to better yourself, that’s all that matters.
The only person you have to compete with is yourself.
3. See A Therapist
In a society that often times look down on therapy, it can be hard to justify that it can be a good step towards better mental health. You may think that it’s too much of a hassle, you’re worried about what others may think, or that no one really thinks about going to therapy, right?
But the thing is that that’s far from the truth; a press release from the American Psychological Association back in 2004 concluded from a survey that, “Nearly half (48%) of American households have had someone see a mental health professional and nine out of 10 Americans say they are likely to consult or recommend a mental health professional if they or a family member are experiencing a problem.”
Clearly from this we can see many people have sought out therapy or would consider it. We all go through hardships, some of us even suffer from mental illness, and most if not all of us would benefit from talking to a trained professional who can help us work through our mental barriers.
The release goes on to state that cost and insurance are still seen as significant barriers to people, which is completely understandable; with sessions costing anywhere between $75-$200 a pop, it’s no wonder people see this as a barrier.
For those that are concerned about their finances, this article may be a helpful resource in finding an affordable option that works for you. I’d recommend giving it a look and seeing your options. While I wish I’d seen it earlier in the year, I’m more than grateful for it and am happy to know I’ll be seeking it in 2019.
4. Answer Honestly About Your Feelings
In society we’re often trained to answer the same way about our feelings when asked how we’re doing. The question “How are you?” is more often than not just a formality that we almost always answer positively, even when we’re almost completely in shambles.
So instead of just saying “I’m good”or an automatic response like that, start working on being more honest with how you feel when someone asks. This doesn’t mean revealing every dark secret like your collection of limited edition beanie babies, but just saying things like “I’m OK” or even as far as “I’ve been better” is more honest and leaves room for the possibility of opening up with people.
Not everyone will delve further into it, and you might not even want some people to probe further, but at least you know you’re working closer to being honest about how things really are going on. It’s just another tool to better stay in touch with your emotions.
Ideally, it will also help to make it easier when you want to sit down and talk with someone about how you’re feeling. You’ll already be used to being more transparent about how you feel on a day-to-day basis, so telling someone how you honestly feel won’t necessarily feel like you’re burdening them or like it’s a sudden surprise. You may even grow closer with them as they may share some of their own thoughts and feelings as well. Overall, being open and honest is often a win-win for both parties.
5. Pick Up A New (Or Old) Hobby
Picking up a new hobby can be a great way to add some excitement to your life and give you another reason to get out of bed each morning. The best part is it doesn’t even have to cost much money or even anything at all. Maybe you want to be a writer or get into drawing. Either one only requires a pen and paper. OK, maybe some colored pens too, but people make some pretty amazing stuff with just one plain old pen.
Even resources to learn how to start a new hobby are cheap. Your local library and the advent of the internet puts us in a world where many guides and tutorials can be bought at the low low price of free.
Hobbies once reserved for the wealthy have also become much more accessible. For example, while photography is and still can be extremely expensive, you can find much more affordable cameras than you ever could, especially if you’re buying a refurbished or older model.
And even then, you can always use a cellphone for photographs. It won’t necessarily be as good as a DSLR, but many phones nowadays have cameras that can get you off to a good start before you even invest any money into the hobby, if you even decide to at all.
And for those that already have enough hobbies, maybe you’re just feeling a little stagnant with a current one; you feel like you keep doing the same thing over and over again and can’t seem to find anything new or exciting about it. If you haven’t yet, look online and see what other people are doing. Maybe there’s a new technique or trend, or maybe there’s something you can do with a hobby that you hadn’t thought of or knew was possible.
For example, I photograph mainly concerts and urban environments, but it’s been feeling a bit stale. While I still love it and enjoy it, I’m looking for that fresh breath of air that will keep me going.
That next step for me is street photography, starting with asking people in public if I can take a photograph of them. I’ll admit the thought makes me terribly nervous, but I know it will make me both a better photographer and a less self-conscious person. There’s a lot of tips, tricks, and videos online that have helped me mentally prepare for when I ask that first person if I can take a photograph of them.
While it can be scary to start a new hobby or progress further in an old one, you’ll feel accomplished and happy with yourself knowing you took the next step. The only thing holding you back in most cases is excuses, so get out there and chase after those hobbies you always wanted to pursue.